098 - Outed

posted 6th Feb 2012, 1:06 AM

098 - Outed
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6th Feb 2012, 1:06 AM

Saprophyte

Haruki, I know you mean well, but that was still a bit invasive of you. Luckily for YOU Robbie almost never has qualms about outing himself, thanks to...well, you'll see!

Coming out can be simple or it can be disastrous and the attached emotions range from happiness and relief to some pretty intense fear and anxiety. Anyone have a story they'd like to share?

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6th Feb 2012, 1:42 AM

Shamus

Oh how I adore this page and its ways. Maybe I'm just a sucker for coming out stories in comics/novels.

My story? Well I had come out to a few people before hand, but then I came out on TV as bisexual on our schools morning announcements during a package about our GSA. All the comments I got were positive, although some were all, "WHA! You are nothing like a gay guy!" I shattered stereotypes that day.

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6th Feb 2012, 2:51 AM

Linden

When I mention my asexuality, I'm always asked if I'm aware that people don't reproduce asexually. Awareness of asexuality isn't very high in my area. I mostly take a deep breath and try to explain it... but the lack of a sexuality is difficult for some to grasp.

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6th Feb 2012, 8:21 AM

Fae

Got linked here by someone, first time here. No pressure or anything (though of course now there is ;) ), but the promise in this storyline makes me want to cry with joy, considering other depictions that have appeared lately.

Um, yeah. Just want to say that I'm looking forward to seeing how this pans out! As for my own coming outs as asexual, I've never had significant problems, though I suppose people give me many of the typical responses... I just doesn't let responses bother me because it's none of my business if they can't deal with it. XD

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6th Feb 2012, 8:59 PM

Guest

Would a roomate really react like that IRL? I wouldn't know. but. this is certainly sweet in the story's sense, thank god >_< i'd hate for the light-heartedness of all this to go downhill just because of a poopy roomate. Do we see more of this roomate? seems like a pretty cool dude

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7th Feb 2012, 12:49 AM

Saprophyte

@Shamus Nothing wrong with that! And WHOO shattered stereotypes!

@Linden I haven't gotten that one yet, but it sounds so incredibly annoying. I wish you all the patience in the world...

@Fae I'm glad it makes you so happy, holy crap!! And I hope I don't disappoint. I haven't had much trouble with the people I came out to as ace, either, but then, I haven't tried broadcasting it to the masses (or FaceBook) as it were, aside from the internet. Sounds like you're good at dealing with the negative responses, though!

@Guest I've lived with roommates for four years now, and all of them have been cheerfully accepting of my various identities (being trans* and at the time I told them pansexual) except one, who was neutral about it. People DO have issues with roommates, as Haruki mentions, but it's not a given! The stuff he's saying/way he's reacting is very much based on real life people I know and interact with--people who are involved in the LGBTQA activism community, including straight allies, which Haruki very much is.

We do see a little more of Haruki in the comic, but nothing in-depth until Chapter 9 or so. I'd say "Wait until Friday's update and you'll see where this goes!" but it's already pretty clear that he's not a poopy guy. My aim for this comic is NOT to show "the life and trials of being asexual" but to create something much more POSITIVE. I'm not out to erase the bad stuff, but honestly the focus can't be on that all the time. We need hope and happiness! Good stuff does happen.

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7th Feb 2012, 5:34 PM

Bri

Haha, got linked here by Tumblr yesterday! Love the comic thus far.

Huh. I never would have suspected Robbie to be gay! Not that it's bad, though. I always love seeing LGBT characters, as it shows awareness (obviously).

Aaaaaaaanyway, great premise, love the art, and can't wait for more updates!

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9th Feb 2012, 6:17 PM

Guest

It's nice to see more asexuality represented! Especially in a much more positive way, as opposed to the more negative things you see.

Personally, coming out wasn't so bad. But I still get a dumb comments, from time to time. Like the asexual reproduction one.

Just got linked this, and read the entire thing right away. I really like it! Keep up the good work.

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10th Feb 2012, 1:32 AM

Saprophyte

@Bri Glad you like it, thank you so much! And hehe it amuses me that you wouldn't suspect Robbie of liking men, but...I guess I have a little insider information to bias me, huh?

@Guest #2 Glad to hear your coming out wasn't terrible...but yeah, the dumb comments! The asexual reproduction one just screams "I AM TOTALLY IGNORANT OF ANY KIND OF COMMUNITY DEALING WITH IDENTITY AND HOW WORDS WORK IN A SOCIAL/CULTURAL CONTEXT."

And glad you like it! <3

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10th Feb 2012, 3:37 PM

Jessica

You might like this site: whenicameout.com

It's got a bunch of short coming out stories, including some about coming out as asexual.

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25th Mar 2012, 5:36 PM

Pluto

I really like seeing things where aces' orientations are accepted.

I've had some decent coming-out experiences and some sucky ones. I really hate it when people tell me I just haven't met the right person yet, but the worst response I've gotten had to be the one where the girl I was just talking to, who was a part of the LGBTQ community herself, said "Oh, I'm so sorry" after I explained what asexuality was to her. Apparently being ace means I'm pitiable because I'll "never experience true love". *rolls eyes*

Fortunately, experiences like that are balanced out by the good ones.

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9th Apr 2012, 5:28 PM

Seth

Until recently, I had never heard or seen the term 'asexual' used outside the strictly biological context. I identified as heterosexual by default, although that never really sat well with me. I'm just going to chalk that up to a failure of the public school system.

Anyway, when I finally did encounter 'asexual' in a psychological context about a month ago (for reference, I'm 22), it was, of course, in a Wikipedia article, and reading through that article and AVEN's FAQ was something of a personal epiphany. After that, I just made a limited visibility post about it on Facebook, which was more or less ignored. It has yet to come up in conversation, except with my mom, and none of the problems others have mentioned came up there. She had previously asked me once or twice if I was gay, not because she had a problem with the idea that I might be, but because she honestly just couldn't tell (big surprise, eh?).

Incidentally, I have a hard time thinking of it as 'coming out', mostly because that would seem to imply that I had at some point been trying to hide or deny it.

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4th May 2012, 1:44 AM

Rae

I haven't really come out as asexual to many people, but when I came out to my sister I was super excited at how accepting she was. She encouraged me more than anyone else. Also I was super nervous to come out to a couple of people in an LGBT class I was in, but the two people I did decide to come out to were really accepting and understanding. So it's been pretty positive so far but I'm not sure if that's just because I've been very careful with who I come out to.

That being said, I love you for painting this page. I also got linked to this comic through a post of this page on tumblr. It makes me happy how real and natural this feels.

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